A group of friends met over coffee. Catching up with what was happening in everyone’s life was fun. Till they all decided that it was my turn to be grilled. “So have you found anyone yet?” one of my friends asked. Pretending not to understand what she was asking I asked back, “For what?”
“Arrey, have you found someone to fall in love with yet?” Another friend asked, tongue in cheek, “it’s okay to tell us if you have fallen in lust too.”
That actually got me thinking. Just like everyone else, I would love to have someone special in my life; to fall in love; to be loved back. Yet, the very thought of falling in love again is so scary. It is so much easier “to fall in lust” as my friend put it.
When you fall in lust, you don’t have to take the responsibility of your feelings. You can blame it on hormones or anything you want. You don’t have to act on it and you don’t need to feel guilty drooling over someone whenever you think of them. You don’t even have to know the person well.
Now, being in love is definitely scarier. It is a decision you take. You can’t fall in love without knowing them. And after you know them, you decide that you want them in your life. They become important to you and you are happy when they are happy, you hurt when they hurt. Your emotions get linked to their emotions. Yes, loving someone is scary ; and if you don’t even have a clue about their feelings for you, it can be even scarier.
That’s why it is so much easier to admit that what you feel for someone is lust rather than love.